Dear Birth Mother,
We are Trevor and Cait and we are thankful you have taken the time to get to know us. We hope that you can find a sense of calm in a time we imagine is stressful and uncertain. We want you to be at peace with any decision you make and we know that you must be feeling many different emotions right now. We admire and respect your courage and selflessness in considering open adoption. We are committed to open adoption for the benefit of everyone involved and hope this letter will help you decide we are the family you envisioned for your child.
We met at a BBQ during the summer of 2005, while Cait was still in college and Trevor was working as a police officer. We bonded over our shared sense of humor, our love of dogs, and our ability to find the silver lining in every situation. Once Cait graduated from college and moved home we began dating seriously and have been together ever since. Cait taught fifth grade as her first job out of college and Trevor continued his work in law enforcement, which has been his career for the last 13 years. We got engaged in our favorite place; Lake Tahoe, California in November of 2007. We were married in front of all of our loved ones in June of 2009. We are different in personality, but we balance one another. Our differences add additional entertainment to our life. We also live with our bulldogs, Finn and Keely; they are playful and patient with kids.
We were married for over two years and had not conceived when we sought medical intervention. We were told that the only option to conceive a child would be through in-vitro fertilization. After multiple failed rounds of IVF we turned our attention to the process of adoption in order to build our family. In August of 2013, our son, Maxson was born and we brought him home from the hospital two days later. His adoption was finalized when he was seven months old and we have continued contact with his birth mother and his half siblings. After teaching for seven years, Cait chose to be a stay-at-home mom with Max and will continue to do so when we add another child to our family. We are hoping that it will bond our children together that they will both be adopted.
We enjoy traveling, on our own and with extended family. Our favorite getaway spot is the Lake Tahoe area, where we have a family home and cannot wait to take our child. We are sure they will love spending time out on the lake just as much as we do. We also look forward to taking our child to the aquarium or zoo, and sharing with them our love and respect for animals. Trevor enjoys playing golf, softball and mountain biking with friends. Cait enjoys doing Pilates, taking walks in the neighborhood and going to the park. We both love listening to music, although usually different types. We both enjoy reading and plan to read to our children before bed every evening.
We live in a quiet, family-friendly, diverse community within the East Bay of Northern California. There are parks, community centers, great schools, a library, restaurants and a movie theatre all within walking distance. Our home is situated almost exactly between both of our parents’ homes, each within ten miles of ours. The location was very important to us when we chose it, we wanted our children to be able to see their grandparents as often as possible.
Cait is from a large, Irish Catholic extended family that gets together to celebrate holidays; big and small. There are six younger children on her side, including our son Max, with more on the way later this year. Trevor’s extended family is smaller, but there are five children under the age of three running around at family get-togethers. Both sides of our family are very excited about the idea of us including another child in our little family and adding to the little ones we get to watch grow up together.
We have a saying in our family, “we can replace things, we cannot replace people” as a reminder to hold all people in the highest regard. We believe that all people deserve respect, compassion, and kindness and we will teach our children to treat people with all three. We believe in a good education and will encourage our child to take advantage of all opportunities available to them. We will speak openly and honestly with our child and will encourage them to do the same with us. We want our child to feel safe, cherished and loved. We know that our awesome village of family and friends will help us to make sure our child grows up to be an open-minded, productive member of our family and society.
Thank you for taking the time to read our letter and find out more about us. We would love to talk to you! You can contact us through Little Angel Adoptions at 1-888-281-8948. We look forward to hearing from you!
A Few Favorites….
*Coffee Ice Cream
*Peanut Butter Chocolate Ice Cream
Both of us:
*Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles
*San Jose Sharks
*Breakfast for Dinner
Trevor and Cait