Dear Birth Mother,
“Greater love has no one then this, that they lay down their life for another.”
(Paraphrase of John 15:13) To lay down your wants and desires to better the life of your child is the biggest sacrifice we can think of. Though we can not fully understand all the emotions on your end, to us you are making an amazing sacrifice. Our hearts are for you and your baby.We want to see your needs met as well as your little one. You are a very big part of a dream come true for us and if it wasn’t for you, we wouldn’t have this opportunity! Thank you for being who you are (even though we don’t know you yet) and making this choice. Thank you, from the bottom of our hearts for your extreme generosity in considering us.
Here’s just a little about us.
I’m Heather! I’m from a big Italian family and being from a large family, I value the beauty that comes from having brothers and sisters. I’m the oldest of 5 and my family still maintains very close relationships. My parents raised us knowing God and that set me up for success in my own family. Family is at the heart of who I am and I see myself filling the roll of mother as the thing God has created me for. This value extends to my parents and siblings and they are really looking forward to a new addition.
I’ve always dreamed of being a mom and this last year becoming someone’s mom was everything I hoped for. It’s my favorite thing to do, to mother, nurture, encourage and help my little one discover the world around her. It’s the most fulfilling thing I’ve ever done. The lack of sleep, the dirty diapers, always being at someone’s beck and call, I love it. Which makes me laugh cause it sounds crazy. The benefits of seeing our baby prosper from our sacrifice far outweigh the hard things though and make it all worth it.
My name is Chris, and I cannot tell you how much it means that you are reading this letter. My beautiful wife Heather and I have so much love in our hearts that we would love nothing more than to give it to children. I was raised in Northern California with 2 brothers. My life was not always easy, and I have gone through a lot of hard things, including cancer, having difficulties with father figures, and the loss of loved ones. What I can say is that I do not regret any of the hard times in my life because it has led me to finding my purpose & my God. I have wanted to have children for a long time, but due to some of the medical challenges that came along with having cancer, my wife and I have not yet been able to conceive.
We have been married for several years now and been through good times and bad. We’ve always wanted children AND to adopt. We figured we’d have a few biological kiddos and then adopt but the good Lord had better plans. After trying for years and losing a pregnancy a couple years ago, we decided to pursue adoption. Last August, after only 3 weeks notice, we brought home miss Arianna. She’s changed our world forever and we can’t wait to see how the next one changes things forever all over again.
Arianna, we call her Ari for short, is full of life. She just turned 1 and she’s developing a great sense of humor. She is more observant every day and does baby jibber jabber all the time. She loves her little cousins and plays really well with all 5 of them. We want all our children to have the experience of growing up together and being close to each other. Being close in age helps that happen a little more naturally so we’re looking forward to bringing home a precious treasure (hopefully soon).
To love and nurture our little one has only increased the desire for another. To have two little treasures running around could only be more fulfilling. To share life as a family of four sounds like perfection to us.We can’t wait for our children to start playing together and learning together and having adventures together.
Some of our hobbies/ extra curricular activities include;
Hunting (We do all kinds, deer, elk, turkey, pigs and Ari goes with us)
Fishing (This is mostly Chris’ thing, but I’m sure the kids will join him someday)
Church (Learning about and sharing God with one another)
Vacation(Did someone say Maui? We love it there)
Trips to the mountains (Lakes, hikes, skiing/boarding, waterfalls, eating out)
Family gatherings (Every major holiday, birthdays, random BBQs and pool days)
Benefits we have in place for our children;
A Good Education (We have taken steps and saved to make this reality)
Travel (We vacation a couple times a year and want our kids to experience the world)
Family (We are committed to being a family that does every aspect of life together, nobody gets left behind)
Spiritual awareness (We believe God creates each life for a purpose and that He loves each life to a degree we can barely understand in our imperfect human state. Our kids will know they are loved unconditionally)
In closing, we want you to know that adoption is one of the best decisions we have ever made and it has changed our lives in more ways than we can explain. Not only were we blessed with our baby girl Ari, but we truly feel we have been a part of a beautiful yet messy plan that only God could have orchestrated.
Peace and Grace,
Chris and Heather