Dear Birth Mother,
I don’t know where to begin other than I hope this letter is the beginning of a journey I am looking forward to, and the fulfillment of my dream of becoming a mother. And you, the mother reading this, may be an instrumental part of making this journey and dream come true. The weight of that overwhelms me because I cannot begin to express how honored I am that you are taking the time to read and learn more about me and my family. We have not met yet, and I do not know who my child will be, but I already feel a love and compassion towards you and my future baby that fills my heart everyday with more joy and hope then I could imagine!
Why I want to adopt
Is it possible to communicate anything as simply held and deeply felt as the urge to parent? I’m not sure but I’m going to do my best through this let…so here we go! My name is Stephanie and I am a 43 year old single mother. The one thing that has been a constant through my life has been my desire to have a child of my own, to raise a baby from birth and to be a Mom. I am the oldest of 3 kids and in many ways I helped raise my younger brother and sister. I can still remember changing their diapers and helping feed them when they were little. And let me tell you my sister and brother could really eat and made some seriously poopy diapers…and I still wanted to be a mom after all that. When I was in Junior High and High School my mom worked at an adoption agency and I learned so much about how courageous and loving the decision was that birth mothers made to have their child be adopted. I witnessed firsthand how everyone worked together to build a family through the process of concentrated, dedicated and enduring love. I knew then that one day I wanted to adopt a baby and that I would never forget the importance of working with a birth mother to make the transition a mutual loving experience for the both of us. I want to have that experience with you so that the baby will grow up knowing how loved they were by you, and how very special they are in this world. I want my child to always know deep in their heart and soul that adoption was a deeply loving decision to give them the opportunity to have the best life possible.
Who I am
I have come to this point in my life through many unexpected turns. I grew up a military brat and in moving often I learned that change is a contact and life is filled with many unexpected gifts. In general I try to have a positive outlook and hope that how I live my life is a good example for my kids. I am retired from the Air Force Reserves where I was an aircraft mechanic and got to travel the world while serving my country in both peace and wartimes. It was an exciting and challenging experience that helped me in pursuing my other goals in my life. From that experience I have been very blessed to have had the opportunity to go to college and pursue my dream of becoming a Social Worker and Child Therapist and continue to enjoy working with children and their families. I was also married for 13 years and had the great joy of helping my ex-husband raise his 2 sons, Brandon and Andrew. Their bio-mother sadly became less and less involved in their lives and I was so honored to be there to help love and raise them into the fine young men they grew up to be. I am known as Steph-Mom (we never liked the term step-mom) and I loved every single moment of being their Steph-Mom. We took wonderful family vacations together, we attended every sport practice and games they wanted to be involved in, went to school plays and events, and created a loving home for our boys to laugh and flourish in. My ex-husband and I also struggled for many years to try and have a child of our own including 2 failed IVF procedures, multiple IUIs, and other fertility treatments. We had decided to foster adopt and we were preparing for a new infant to join our family of 4 when tragedy struck. At the end of my youngest son, Andrew, senior year of high school he was killed in a car accident. This clearly turned all of our worlds upside down and due to many stressors and deep grief my marriage eventually led to a divorce. And so now here I am today, a single mom, with an amazing 22 year old son and we are both ready to add to our little family.
Me as a Mom
I have been a Mom and a child therapist for the past 13 years and it has given me a whole butt load of experience!! What I have learned most is the understanding that it is not easy, it is never what you plan, and no matter how hard it gets it is ALWAYS worth it. So I can’t promise you that your baby will have everything its little hearts desires…mostly because I don’t believe in spoiling a child with stuff, but definitely spoil them with love and affection. And I can’t promise I will be a perfect mother, because I don’t think such a thing exists. But I do know I will love her or him with my WHOLE heart! I will wipe their nose, dry their tears, and kiss all their boo-boos until they feel better. I will be silly and play with them so they laugh so hard their sides hurt. I will recognize their strengths, and I will do everything in my power to help those talents flourish so they can make their unique dreams come true. I will teach them the values of honesty, hard work, and the importance of building strong relationships with family and friends. Because it is your family and friends that will be there for you when things get tough and can be your greatest teachers and cheerleaders. I am known to my 20+ nieces and nephews as Crazy Auntie Steph because I love to play with them and take them on exciting adventures or do crazy things like silly string fights in the backyard or late night sleep overs eating pizza and candy till they pass out. And I cannot tell you how excited they are to have a new baby cousin to play with and share stories with about their crazy aunt. My whole family could not be more excited and thrilled to welcome a new baby to join in all the family traditions and holidays, all the vacations and special outings, and every little moment in between. This child will have more love then they can imagine and I hope I will give them a house to grow up in that they know is their home, and so much love that a day doesn’t go by that they ever doubt how important and special they are because they came from you. And you gave them the very biggest and most loving gift you could give your baby and I will never forget to honor that every day of mine and my child’s life. I thank you from the very depths of my heart.
If you are interested in learning more or speaking with me, please contact Little Angel Adoptions at 1-888-281-8948.