Robert & Melissa
Dear Expectant Mother,
We first want to thank you so very much for taking the time to read our letter. We realize that this must be a very difficult time in your life, and we hope that our words will perhaps bring some relief, healing, and happiness for you during this challenging time.
My name is Melissa, and my husband’s name is Robert. Before I tell you more about us and our lives, I’d like to tell you a little about myself and my struggle to become a mom.
I’ve always wanted to be a mother. And, more than that, I’ve always wanted to adopt a child. I can’t explain why, but I’ve always felt that adoption was the right choice for me. I even started the adoption process a couple of times in my life, but the timing was never quite right: I got married once, but the relationship didn’t work out, and we got divorced. Throughout my twenties and thirties, I was single and focused on my career. I am a business owner, and I was concerned that my schedule – combined with the financial ups and downs that come with running my own company – would make it difficult for me to support a family on my own.
I also struggled to find a partner who shared my goal of adoption. In fact, more than one of my relationships ended because the men I dated didn’t want to adopt a child one day. But I didn’t let this discourage me. I prayed that one day I’d find that special someone who shared my desire to adopt and raise a child.
It took a while, but I finally met that special someone: Robert. We dated for three wonderful years, and we were married on a beautiful December day, surrounded by close family and friends. Like me, Robert had been married before. Unlike me, though, he was already a father to three grown children. While we were dating, we discussed my lifelong dream of adopting a child of my own. Robert was supportive from day one. He had always loved being a father. He was – and still is – a great dad. He was excited about the idea that he’d be able to do it all again with me.
I know that Robert and I might be a little more mature than some of the other couples you’ve considered. And while it’s true that we might be a few years older, we can offer your child stability, love, comfort, and opportunity. Robert and I have a beautiful relationship, a happy home, and a loving family that is waiting to welcome your child with open arms.
So, now that you know a little about our story, let me tell you a little about our life: We live in Texas, in a small, serene neighborhood. We have a comfortable and spacious two-story home that we share with our two dogs, Sam and Luci. We have three darling bedrooms, and we can’t wait to make one of them a bedroom for a child. Our home has a beautiful backyard and a pool surrounded by trees and flowers, and every Sunday my nieces Sofie and Simone come over for barbecue and swimming. Sometimes Robert’s kids and grandkids come over, too. It’s such a joy to watch the kids and dogs run and play together.
Family is very important to Robert and me, and we are fortunate that we live very close to both of our families. My mother, two older brothers, and older sister all live nearby, and we spend a lot of time together. Robert has one older brother, three children, and two precious grandchildren. He is an amazing father, and his kids adore and admire him. We get together with both of our families to enjoy cooking, working out, playing dominoes, swimming, and attending sporting events in our city. Robert and his boys all played competitive sports, so they love to watch the pros.
Outside of family life, Robert is an attorney, and I own my own business. We are both active in our church and our community, and we both have hobbies that we love. Robert’s passions are golf and tennis, while I enjoy exercise and ballroom dancing. Robert also loves to cook, which is wonderful because that is not necessarily a talent of mine (but I do try!). His specialties are burgers, grilled chicken, and stuffed peppers (his kids’ favorite!).
Robert and I also love to travel, and we have visited many countries outside the US. We find that traveling is a wonderful way to learn about history, culture, art, and different ways of life. We hope to travel with our child one day, so they can experience different countries and cultures, too. Robert and I have learned so much from our travels, and we have met so many interesting and amazing people along the way.
Robert and I share a beautiful love and a wonderful life. We have had so many experiences through the years, and all of those experiences – both happy and painful – have made us who we are today.
We have so much love to give and life to share, and we hope and pray that this dream of having a child of our own will soon come true. We would be so very honored, humbled, and full of gratitude to you, as an expectant mother, for sharing this gift of love and selflessness with us.
With our deepest and most heartfelt sincerity,
Melissa and Robert