Evans & Natalie
Hi, we are Evans and Natalie. We write to you today in hope and gratitude, to give you a sense of who we are as people, as a couple, and to express our deep desire to raise a child. Thank you so much for reading this letter and for considering us as potential adoptive parents.
We both grew up in homes with a lot of warmth, guidance, opportunity, play and a sense that our parents loved us more than anything in the world. Coming from such families, both of us have long wanted to become parents ourselves and pass along this same love and zest for life to a child of our own. We have had a heart for adoption for many years and have seen many friends and family experience the joy of adoption in their own lives. When we discovered that we couldn’t have a child the traditional way, there wasn’t a moment’s hesitation in knowing that adoption was our answer.
Our Lives Today
We have been married four years. We live in the California Bay Area in a three-bedroom home. Our neighborhood is friendly and safe and filled with other families with children. We’re just a short walk from great parks, playgrounds, schools and libraries.
We are blessed in so many ways: our strong love for each other, healthy lifestyles, secure jobs that we both enjoy, a home in a friendly community, enduring friendships, and the love and support of our families. Best of all, we really enjoy each other’s company and love to spend our free time together. All that’s missing is a child, with whom to share our love.
Natalie plans to be the child’s primary caregiver. Evans intends to be a very active and involved parent as well, and plans on taking significant time off during the early months of our child’s life to help establish early family bonds. In other words, raising a child will be the number one priority in our lives.
Natalie’s Background & Parenting Approach
I grew up as the youngest of four children with my mother and father in Arkansas. My parents always modeled the importance of having quality family time. We took many family vacations and I have many fond memories of my childhood. We talked about everything, and from the earliest age I was encouraged to express my thoughts, desires, interests and frustrations. If we saw things differently, we would discuss my view, they would explain theirs to help me learn and develop in my understanding of life. All of us are still very close and supportive of each other’s new and growing families. I’d like to have a similar relationship with my child, in which I listen to their views respectfully and openly, yet make the final decisions based on the wisdom I’ve gained as an adult.
I believe that raising a child requires guidance, patience, unconditional love and maturity. Children rise to the expectations others set for them. I was always encouraged to pursue my interests, whether they were sports, music, art, or any other activity that I enjoyed. My parents introduced me to a variety of activities, pursuits and life experiences, and then followed my lead and allowed me to set my own path. I intend to do the same thing. I am eager to discover what makes my child’s heart sing! As a mother, I will endow my child with love, support, confidence, good judgment, and a sense that anything is possible if they believe in themselves and work hard to achieve their goals.
In addition to learning so much from my own parents and family, I later spent many years studying communication development and disorders. I earned a Bachelor’s and Master’s degree in Speech Language Pathology. I have worked as a Speech Therapist with children and adults for over seven years. Currently I work part time (2 days/week) at a local hospital providing speech therapy services. Outside of work I enjoy cooking, knitting, cycling, volunteering in community services and exploring new places. After adopting our son or daughter, I will take off significant time to bond with our child. I will then work 1-2 day per week. The days that I work are flexible so I will only work days when Evans is off work so he can stay at home with our child.
Evans’s Background & Parenting Approach
I grew up in Georgia and enjoyed a great relationship with my older brother, mother and father. We would spend a lot of time playing sports together and enjoying the outdoors. We were always a family that would listen to each other and really take each persons opinion into account. My mother was adopted as a baby, so I have always had adoption in my life. I saw the unconditional love she was shown by her adoptive parents, and it is something I will seek to emulate. I have also enjoyed a great time learning from my older brother and trying to follow his example. He has always been not only a brother, but also a great friend that I could always count on. My father brought love and care to my life and as I grew he gave me great wisdom as I began to pursue my dreams.
I believe that children will thrive when given love, respect and the freedom to be who God has made them to be. We are all different and we are blessed with different abilities. I am a person that loves the outdoors and sports, but have such an appreciation for talents like music, art and dance. We live in a city that is full of great culture and I am excited to show our child all the great things that he or she can be. I desire to be a father that is humble, loving, encouraging and supportive of our child as they experience so many new things with each passing year. Nothing could make me happier than seeing our child live out the abilities they have been given.
I work as a pastor at a church in our city. I have earned a Bachelors Degree in Sports Management and a Masters Degree in Educational Leadership. I have been so blessed to get to blend the two degrees into helping me do my work as a pastor in the city. The Sports Management degree focused a lot on business, and I get to use that knowledge and experience, as I am the overseer of all the finances for our church. The Educational Leadership part comes in as I get to teach and lead teams of people to go out and serve our community. I organize teams as they go serve the people in our city; from the poorest neighborhoods to the wealthy that live in the neighborhood of our church. My work keeps me busy, but I am blessed to work under a senior pastor that is very committed to making sure the staff spends as much time with their family as possible. He is constantly making sure we know that our work is important, but our most important calling is to our families. I have been given great flexibility as I plan my schedule. I have no worry of missing those all-important first check-ups for our baby, nor do I have to be concerned with missing their extra-curricular activities. I cannot imagine having a better job that will allow my to use my talents and abilities and provided the flexibility to be a father that is present at the events that matter in the life of our child.
Our Shared Vision as a Family
We imagine creating a loving, healthy home environment that provides our child with rich opportunities to learn about life and the world through family trips, lessons, sports and the arts. Once we have adopted our child, some of the things we plan on doing as a family (at an age-appropriate time in the child’s life) include:
- Walking together to the Farmer’s Market to buy fresh, organic produce, then stopping by the park on the way home to play and enjoy a picnic lunch.
- Spending days at the beach, flying kites, watching the sea lions and building sand castles.
- Going camping
- Learning about healthy foods and how to cook them.
- Going to the children’s zoo.
- Taking regular trips to the nearby art and science museums.
- Teaching the joy of sports – both individual and on a team, such as tennis, baseball, golf, and bicycling.
- Playing board games together as a family
- Going up to Lake Tahoe, in the Sierras, to play in the snow, cross-country ski and build a snowman.
- Spending time at the lake with Natalie’s family – learning to swim, tubing, waterskiing, exploring the Botanical Gardens, fishing in small ponds and streams.
- Exploring the outdoors and taking vacations with Evans’ family.
These are just some of the activities we envision; our child’s developing interests and passions will guide others.
We recognize that while structure is very important in a child’s life, so is freedom, time to daydream and the desire to explore. We want our child to have the best childhood imaginable – including learning life’s lessons – and will do everything we can to make that a reality.
In terms of faith, Evans and I are both Christians and attend church regularly. We plan to share our beliefs in a loving and supportive way. We will respect our child’s choice of faith and always love them unconditionally. Most important, we will teach our child to be a good person and treat everyone – no matter what their background – with dignity and respect. We plan to provide all the love, guidance, support and self-confidence that’s humanly possible, so that they can pursue their dreams in life, whatever those dreams might be, and find joy in the pursuit.
Our Gratitude for Your Consideration
We know this may be a challenging time in your life, and we respect your courage to make the best family plan for your baby. Thank you for considering us as potential adoptive parents. Please know that we will love your baby as parents all the days of his or her life.
If you would like to get to know us more contact Little Angels at (916) 941-8128 or 1-888-281-8948. We look forward to hearing from you and meeting you!